It is so HARD!

Living a healthy life is SO HARD

“It is so HARD!” is a sentence I hear quite a bit from some people who talk to me about losing weight and getting their life back.

“I can’t have any sweets?”

“No alcohol?”

“I can’t have any white pasta or white BREAD?”

“So you mean I cannot have any food that has ANY FLAVOR???”

“But Tamara, what will I do? How will I live? I have an insane sweet tooth! Can’t I have a FEW cheat days? My kids will not eat healthy! My spouse will sabotage me!! But we love to go out to dinner! I don’t have TIME to cook! I don’t know HOW to cook! My Mom/Dad/Aunt/Friend/3rd Cousin just keeps bringing junk into the house and I cannot resist it!”

STOP IT WITH ALL THE DRAMA!!!!!

"Elizabeth! I'm comin to join ya honey!"

You are an ADULT (and some of you even have children)! So start acting like one! You can do anything you put your mind to…this is not new news. It is called PRIORITIES.

You want to know what is really HARD?

**Going to the Doctor and finding out that you are not overweight, but you have fallen into the OBESE or MORBIDLY OBESE category.

**Having your Doctor tell you that your cholesterol levels are very dangerous.

**NOT going to the Doctor at ALL because you are afraid of what he/she might tell you about your declining health.

**Listening to your Doctor tell you that you are BORDERLINE DIABETIC, or have your Doctor tell you that actually have DIABETES.

**Non-exsistent dating life or a lot slower than you would like for it to be.

**Having your current relationship suffer deeply because of your weight struggles.

**Not having the social life you would like to have.

**Not being able to participate in the physical activities that you would love to with your children, family, or friends.

**Hating what you look like naked and with clothes on (swimsuit shopping is a NIGHTMARE).

**Always feeling tired, exhausted and or winded.

**Having a lot of issues with your back, knees, feet, heart, hips etc, because of the extra weight you are carrying.

**Not wanting to go to a gym for fear that people will make fun of you.

**Hiding behind other people everytime someone takes a picture, REFUSING to be in pictures at all, OR just using pictures of yourself from 10-15 years ago when you were thinner for all your social media sites.

**Pretending you are full when eating out with others, but in your mind, all you can think about is binging when you get home.

**Hiding junk food wrappers in the trash so others won’t see that you have been binging.

**Hiding food from your family so you can eat it alone later.

**Hearing other children tease your children because of their overweight Mom/Dad.

**Sitting on an airplane having a hard time buckling the seat belt, and feeling really uncomfortable in the seat.

**Listening to family or friends talk with you over and over again about your weight and how they are really concerned about your health.

**The broken record that you play in your head everyday that keeps you TRAPPED in this blackhole of weight loss failure.

**And, allowing almost all of your emotions to be governed by food. HAPPY=FOOD SAD=FOOD MAD=FOOD BORED=FOOD INDIFFERENT=FOOD!

I am sure I have missed a few.

What are YOU going to do?

Living like THIS is what is really HARD. Imagine the freedom you will have once you set yourself free! You have to look at food as nourishment for your body, not as a crutch to make you feel better for that moment. You will NEVER solve any of your problems with emotional eating and or overeating. Ask yourself, “Am I really hungry, or is there something bothering me?” If you are emotionally eating, then try sitting with those emotions, you might actually figure out a way to get through it. You were MADE to get through almost ANY emotional curve ball that is thrown at you.

Try this….I mean ACTUALLY TRY THIS:

-Pick a start date
-Write out your long term and short term weight loss goals
-Surround yourself with people who will support you
-Try journaling (read my blog about journaling for weight loss success)

http://barbeelovefitness.com/2014/07/16/journaling-for-weight-loss-2/

Write down your long term and short term goals

-Clear your home of ALL unhealthy food
-Prepare your meals ahead of time to lower your failure rate

This is what preparing your food ahead of time should look like!

-Go out to eat ALOT LESS
-Last but not least, HIRE a Certified Personal Trainer who is also a Nutrition Specialist (such as ME!) to help you and just FOLLOW THE DAMN PLAN!

REDEFINE THE WORD “HARD”.

Contact me TODAY so I can help you redefine the word HARD.
Mention this article and you will get a discount code on any one of my programs!

Email: tamara@barbeelovefitness.com
Office: 772-444-BFIT
Website: www.barbeelovefitness.com

To YOUR health,
Tamara Barbee Savoie 🙂

Journaling for weight loss success

JOURNALING FOR WEIGHT LOSS SUCCESS

JOURNALING FOR WEIGHT LOSS SUCCESS

JOURNALING FOR WEIGHT LOSS SUCCESS

One way quite a few people are able to keep their weight “under control” is to become accountable for everything that they do. There are many ways to do this, and one really effective way that does not cost much is the simple art of JOURNALING. You can start by purchasing a small or medium size note book, a fancy leather bound journal, OR for all you techies…you can use an APP!

Below I have listed my personal favorite app I use on my iPad, and one I use on my Samsung Galaxy phone (Android). Apps these days are so cool, you can add pictures, videos, locations, privacy lock codes, etc.

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.theappspod.dayjournal&hl=en

https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/day-one-journal-diary/id421706526?mt=8

Why use a journal? Writing down things help to hold you accountable, you actually SEE what you have or have not been doing according to your goals. You should start your journal by writing down what your goals are, long term and short term.

Break down your long term goals into short term goals. Then ACTUALLY incorporate those goals into your permanent schedule each day, week, month:

I am going to lose 50 lbs by December 31, 2014
I am going to lose approximately 8.5 lbs each month
I am going to lose approximately 2.2 lbs each week

I am going to run 24 miles each month
I am going to run 6 miles each week
I am going to run 2 miles on M, W, and F after work

Write down your long term and short term goals

Put your grocery shopping in your schedule permanently on your favorite day. Choose two days and time frames for doing your food prep and put it in your schedule permanently. Do not allow anything to get in the way of these days and times, they are important to your success.

Write down what you are eating and how much exercising you are doing each day…be HONEST with yourself even if you deviated from your meal plan. You can use this food journaling as a way to also be accountable for what you are or aren’t doing to reach your goals.

Write down ANYTIME you feel a craving coming on or just want to deviate from your meal plan. In that moment, STOP…write down what you are saying to yourself to sabotage your meal plan. Write it down BEFORE you eat the unhealthy food. Sit with whatever feelings you are having and actually experience them instead of masking them with food. (I want you to look back after several months entries and see if there is a pattern of a certain type of behavior).

Write down anything you want about how you feel at anytime.

Write down when you are feeling at your lowest each day. Say why/what/who made you feel this way…even if it was YOU.

Write down when you are feeling your best each day. Say why/what/who was involved in making you feel good even if it was YOU.

DO THIS EVERYDAY.

At the end of each day/week/month check off everything you have accomplished. Each month you will soon see that you are closer and closer towards reaching your weight loss goals. Each month you will continue breaking bad habits and increasing your good habits.

REMEMBER THIS: WHAT YOU HAVE BEEN DOING IN THE PAST HAS NOT BEEN WORKING FOR YOU, SO YOU MUST CHANGE WHAT YOU ARE DOING OR YOU WILL KEEP GETTING THE RESULTS YOU HAVE BEEN GETTING.

Weight loss is more of a MENTAL CHALLENGE than a PHYSICAL CHALLENGE. Journaling helps you to knock out your mental challenges.
Contact me ASAP and I can help you on your journey.
Tamara Barbee Savoie
Email: tamara@barbeelovefitness.com
Office: 772-444-BFIT
www.barbeelovefitness.com